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Re: Is this separation anxiety? Please help!

Jamie, you might want to try desensitizing her. Put her in the crate, leave the room for five minutes, come back in the room with no fuss, let her out, tell her good girl and do it again fifteen minutes later. If she gets the picture that you will be coming back, she MAY get over it. You'll need to do this daily in order for desensitization to work. Some dogs never get over separation anxiety if that's what it really is, but your girl is new to your home and may simply be freaked out about the changes in her life. Don't make a big production of putting her in or releasing her from the crate....just very matter of fact. No dramatic goodbyes or hellos. Good luck, and let us know how this turns out.

Re: Re: Is this separation anxiety? Please help!

Agree with Molly here except I'm not a crate person myself.

Can you put her in a gated area while you are gone? Maybe the kitchen or somewhere?

Some other suggestions: Take her for a good long walk before you have to go somewhere. I mean 40 minutes to an hour walk. She should get that every day anyway. She will be more able to relax if she is tired. Then don't make a big deal out of leaving her. I always say to my dogs; I'll be back, you be good boys in a low firm tone. I don't give kisses and baby talk them. I used to have the same problem as you with my dogs too.

Good luck, it will get better. I will post a really good article about seperation anxiety on here.

Vicki

Re: Re: Re: Article on Separation Anxiety

Separation Anxiety

The term separation anxiety is often misunderstood. True clinical separation anxiety is not common. Dogs do undergo stress and anxiety in response to the owner leaving the dog home alone: in other words, when the dog is separated from the pack. Dogs need to be properly conditioned to being left alone. Otherwise, behaviors such as barking, destructiveness, escape attempts, and even housebreaking accidents may occur. Giving a dog too much, or the wrong type of attention can lead to such stress related behaviors.
Examples include:
· petting the dog too much for merely existing
· allowing the dog to sleep in your bed before behavior issues are resolved
· petting and playing with the dog when they demand it
· petting to calm the dog down when it is sacred, stressed, angry, etc.
· over enthusiastically greeting the dog upon awakening or arriving home.
These actions can make the dog too dependent and create neediness. This neediness cannot be fulfilled when the dog is alone. If the dog is experiencing stress when left alone, it will do things that he/she should not do.
It is important to keep a balance, so that the dog does not feel as alone when you are gone. Below are some suggestions for easing the dog’s stress. It is imperative that a dog receives positive, quality attention. Dogs are social creatures and need play time. It is important that the owner set the beginning and end time for the game. The dog should not demand that the game be played. Have a specific fetch toy and take it out only when it is time to play. If a dog is good for 6 fetches, stop at 4. Gradually add a repetition on each day until the dog will do 2 dozen back and forth. Put the toy away when the game is over. This will ensure that the dog stays motivated and doesn’t lose or destroy the toy. Have chew toys for the dog when not playing. Do not play fetch with dog's chew toys as that’ll reinforce the dog demanding play at the wrong times. Controlling when to and what to play
with, will put you in the role of leader as well as prevent dominance issues.
Diet, walks, and the home environment also play a role in preventing stress in the dog:
· Feed the dog twice per day. This will satisfy the dog as well as prevent possible mood swings due to possible low blood sugar.
· Calmly walk the dog twice a day for 20 minutes. On the walks, you can also include some basic obedience training. Take tiny soft treats and lure the dog to sits and downs. This also encourages the dog to keep their focus on you.
In the home environment when dog’s alone, be sure to leave the radio on for
the dog. It'll buffer outside noises and make the house seem less empty. Stick to an easy listening station so as not to excite the dog. Also leave a light on if it will be getting dark. Lastly, maintain a calm presence around the dog the last 30 minutes before you leave the house so as not to excite the dog and possibly induce stress. Again these are preventive measures. If you cannot resolve separation problems, seek professional help.

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Re: Re: Re: Is this separation anxiety? Please help!

Jamie,

I agree with everyone here who said you have to slowly get her used to you being gone... that may take some time.
As much as she doesn't like the crate, that may be the best place for her right now while you are gone. If she is stressed with you being gone, she may be destructive in whatever room you put her in, which can be dangerous for her, as well as cause you lots of damage. I have seen people's houses where the dogs have chewed table legs, cabinets, doors, and even walls while they were away... I am not saying that she will do that, but it can happen.

Good luck.

Re: Is this separation anxiety? Please help!

Ditto to what Molly suggested...you might also try covering the crate with a sheet.
Erica